Marriage is a legal union between two people with the purpose of procreation. Marriage is also a mutual agreement between a man and a woman to stay and grow together. Sometimes, navigating the journey of marriage is usually between two people. It might be a legal one and sometimes, it might be an illegal one. The legality of it is dependent on the parties involved; the terms of agreement that proceeded their union.
Before embarking on a journey of marriage, one must be certain of the kind of partner he or she should be able to submit to. Marriage must be built on love and trust. Some people do go into marriage because they see their friends go into it and they think it necessary. Marriage should not be done simply because of the necessity to do so but because of the willingness to stay in marriage also called holy matrimony.
Everything in life has its own ups and downs side, so is marriage. Couples should not allow the down side of life to keep them drown in the tide of life. They should look out for every possible way of making a marriage work.
Challenge in Marriages
- Financial Challenges
Before a person ventures into marriage, he or she should check the finances. The financial strength of union should be checked before the couples starts procreating. Partnership is meant to be enjoyed and not to be an avenue of suffering. A couple that is ready for matrimony should make ensure that they acquire skills that will be for the betterment of the family and as well address some of the children’s most outstanding needs like the education of the children, shelter, etc. Unavailability of meant needs can cause a depression on the part of the parents.
- Health Challenges
Before marriage vows are exchanged, couples should ensure that they fit in terms of health. There should be no regret after marriage. Couples should run a check on their lives and ensure that the medical result supports the union they are about to go into. Blood group, genotype, etc should be ascertained before marriage.
- Educational Challenges
Couples should marry who they seem fit in terms of education. Sometimes, problems spring forth because of the high education level of a couple compared to the low education level of the other.
The challenges in marriage can be curtailed through the following ways;
The challenges in marriage can be curtailed through the following ways;
- Openness:
- Ability to accept Fault
- Willingness to make amends
- The ability to shoulder Responsibilities
- Owning up to mistakes
- Keeping marriages away from third Parties
- Involving a therapist
- Openness:
The couples should be willing to exercise openness in a marriage. They should be open in thoughts, emotions and other things that might be trying to weigh them down. When there is openness, the issues of importance will be addressed amicably and unity will be built within the union. When couples refuse to open up issues to be addressed, they worsen the condition and make it impossible to be addressed.
- Ability to accept Fault
When couples have the mindset of accepting fault, it makes it possible for the fault you be addressed without hurting the two parties because, they already have a reality of what is happening. The inability of accepting faults lead to prolonged conflict resolution process because the resolving parties find it hard to bring the defaulter to the knowledge of their fault.
- Willingness to make amends
The couples should be willing to amend their ways. They should be ready to turn away from their wrong doing in order to follow through the right path of happiness for themselves and the family as a whole.
- The ability to shoulder Responsibilities
The couples should not just marry but they should marry people that are ready and willing to shoulder responsibilities. The responsibilities shouldered will encourage togetherness in a family and it will encourage mutual relationship.
- Owning up to mistakes
Couples should be able to own up to mistakes. The ability to own up to mistakes will ensure their willingness to forgive and live together with others in harmony. It will make the parties involved to acknowledge their mistakes and also seek for forgiveness.
- Keeping marriages away from third Parties
Third parties are those people that can only interfere in our marriages if we give them the permission to do so. We should try as much as possible to keep the secret of our marriage to ourselves in order not invite the energy for our destruction.
- Involving a therapist
When the marriage relationship has gone worst, there is an option for the couples to go see the therapist. The therapist will help the couples with strategies that will put a check to the couple’s loopholes in the marriage relationship.
Conclusion
It is not just all about getting married but staying married. People should not go into marriage because people are doing it. They should attempt marriage when they are ready (emotionally, financially, otherwise) to face the challenges that comes with marriage. Marriage is not a bed of roses, so the couples should not expect to get the best from marriage but they should be willing to put in the required resources and energy for the workability and the peace of the marriage. There should expect the good and the bad but they should look forward to striking a balance between the two sides and at the same time raise a flag as a signal in their hearts and minds to show that they yearn for a good marriage.
